"Tilly, you're way too big to sleep in that basket lid," her owner said.
But we humans want to fit in. Or, we don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. So we continue in our discomfort, jamming ourselves into situations that just don't suit us.
Being a Christ follower can be awkward in certain social situations. And it seems that is getting more and more difficult. But that doesn't mean we give up whose we are. We can disagree without being disagreeable. We can speak truth in love and compassion.
How do we discern? Only prayer can help us find the right place at the right time for each of us individually. The Lord uses our different interests and skills to reach those who need to know God's love. Sometimes we stay, sometimes it is time to go. Ask God to show you the best fit for your life.