Loving for Another's Sake

If there's one thing I'm good at it, it's being self-absorbed.  I'm not proud of it, which is good because then I'd have both pride and selfishness against me.  However, I know I'm not alone.  Most all of us react according to how we feel about things.  We want to leave/abandon another because we don't approve, don't like, are annoyed, aren't having fun.....the emotions go on.

But what to do then, about this quote by Charlotte Bronte:

"If we would build on a sure foundation in friendship, we must love our friends for their sakes rather than our own."